Should I try and conceive during this time if I have previously experiences a loss?
For a lot of people trying to conceive is a wait and see scenario but for others it’s a decision not taken lightly, especially if you are trying again after loss.
For many being able to try for another baby as soon as possible after a loss is really important. The desire to have a baby that you can bring home is often incredibly strong and something that many people who have not been through it don’t understand.
Trying again after loss is always fraught with anxiety, worried if we are doing the right thing or are we putting our unborn baby at risk from not eating the right foods, not exercising enough or too much etc. Then the real worry that it might happen again, and although statistically its unlikely, no one can tell us for definite that it won’t, well, that’s because it might and it does. Our mind set has completely changed, this is a new normal, we are changed because of it and its likely that we will be robbed of enjoying any future pregnancies as we will always have this underlying fear that it will all go wrong. Chances are we are still grieving for the baby that we have lost and sometimes seeing friends or family pregnant or with their babies is like a knife to the heart and a kick to the stomach.
So during this health emergency should you continue to try for a baby? There is plenty of time, you are at home so you can relax and chill if you get a positive test result and is there ever really a right time to have a baby? Who knows when everything will be back t normal, how will it affect you psychologically to put this off indefinitely? Is age a factor?
However this is already an anxious time and this next pregnancy is likely to magnify the anxiety. Reassurance scans will be more difficult to organise and you would have to attend them on your own, this could make ‘scan anxiety’ even worse and if you do end up having another loss you would receive bad news on your own.
Hopefully by the time that you give birth we would be out the other side but who knows where we will be as a country then.
However choosing whether to try now is entirely your decision and don’t let anyone try and sway you either way. Weigh up how the pros and cons might affect you as everyone is different. If you decide to go ahead make sure that you have a support network and get help if your anxiety is getting too much, either from a private counsellor or via organisations such as SANDS, Tommys or The Miscarriage Association.
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